No aspect of estate planning brings out as much emotional decision-making as the division of assets. Many people think, “I love you”, so I will leave you everything. In order to understand why “I love you” wills are, contrary to their name and not the most caring of estate planning gestures, it is important to understand the risks associated with these overly simplistic estate planning documents.
Simply put, an “I love you” will is a common name for a will in which the maker leaves all of his or her assets outright to his or her surviving spouse. Many people consider this approach because they think that leaving assets in trust shows they don’t trust their spouse. They may also think that because their estate is not of sufficient size to incur federal estate tax, that they are somehow protected from having their assets fall into the wrong hands. Sadly, many people also think that a will can be used to avoid probate. Unfortunately, none of these things are true.
Why “I love you” wills are not effective
What if you want to make sure your spouse, Jane, gets access to your wealth upon your death. You go to your general practice attorney who drafts a 3 page “I love you” will for the benefit of Jane. Here are some of the issues that can occur:
In order to receive the assets, Jane will have to go to the probate court to validate the will. This can take significant time — typically at least 9 months — and incur substantial expense. Moreover, the process is part of the public record; so, everyone can now see what Jane has inherited.
Benefits of lifetime beneficiary directed trusts
Comprehensive, trust-based estate planning with lifetime beneficiary trusts is a better option than outright inheritance for surviving spouses, children, grandchildren, or other beneficiaries. If you leave your assets in lifetime beneficiary trusts, you retain control over where assets end up in the long run. Moreover, beneficiaries receive asset protection features that can keep wealth safe from courts, creditors, and divorcing spouses and your private affairs remain out of public record. You can also take advantage of more sophisticated tax planning than you can with a basic will or trust with outright distributions.
So, when providing for your loved ones, make sure that what you worked for all your life is well protected. See a qualified estate planning attorney and sleep soundly knowing that you have done everything possible for your family. Isn’t that the best way to truly say “I love you”?
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